When witnessing a friend go through a breakup it is imperative that you be the right amount of supportive and understanding yet, have an appropriate amount of distain for their ex-significant other. Almost every time you hear those dreaded words… “But don’t worry we’re still going to be friends!” Upon hearing this how do you keep yourself from smacking your grief stricken friend square across her pretty little face?
Removed from the situation, one can probably think clearly and see the insanity in this statement. But, how is it when people break up they still attempt to stay friends, when it will ultimately just drive the other person crazy. There is a reason you broke up in the first place correct? Can we suddenly remove our attraction to the person enough to stay friends with them? What is it exactly that you plan on talking about when you do stay friends. The person he is dating? His family and friends who you used to hang out with and care for and now no longer see? Do you hang out together, talk on the phone, go bowling? All of these factors just continuously worry me that after a break up that the outcome might just be continuous devastation.
It can be argued that after a certain amount of time exes can become friends and you probably are thinking of a story right now in which a friend of yours is now best friends with their ex. True, once you get the crazy bitch out of your system it probably is very possible. However, once the relationship is over wouldn’t you just prefer to have that person gently fade away so that you are left with the pleasant memories of what you had, not a constant reminder of what you don’t have?