My friend Monica is what I like to call a “Lipstick Lesbian!” She is beautiful, successful and a perfect catch. But for about two years she was single, focusing on her career rather than suffering through horrible dates like the rest of us. But just recently she had started dating, deciding to take some time out of her busy schedule to meet someone.
I would find myself receiving random texts from Monica asking questions like, “Is it ok to kiss on the first date?” or “Is it weird that they are dating other people while getting to know me?” And I would answer back, “Yes, if you really think she is cute” or “No, you shouldn’t put all your eggs in one hen’s basket!”
After many weeks Monica and I decided to grab a cup of coffee at the Dark Horse to catch up on life. And when I asked her about her dating adventures she mentioned this girl that she was seeing. “It has been a month, we have kissed once, it is moving so slow… and I love it!”
Leave it to the lesbian to hit that age-old topic on the head about slowing down dating. Are we moving too fast? Do we leave time for romance or even to get to know our future partner? Or are we loving strangers? Just because the city and our work lives are on fast forward doesn’t mean that our relationships have to be. We want everything instantly in today’s society, even in finding a life partner. You may be able to fast-track your degree or laundry service, but do you want to do the same to your love life?